The concept of self-care is rampant nowadays because of its positive contributory effects in our lives. Due to the fast pace of our world, today and most of us have errands, work schedules, homework, and personal experiences to manage, you might deprive yourself of the love and support you deserve.

Some people tend to give more than what they should be giving to themselves and end up feeling exhausted all the time. But the thing is, we need to take care of ourselves so we can help the way we want to without leaving nothing left for ourselves.

Self-care is such a comprehensive notion that comprises different scopes such as psychological, emotional, social, environmental, spiritual, financial, and more!

A substantial amount of love and pampering for ourselves is not selfish. In fact, more often than not, taking good care of ourselves is what we need most to root back and reflect on who we are and what we are capable of.

Taking time to look after yourself is an essential part of human activity which is mostly overlooked nowadays.

Definition of self-care

According to the World Health Organization, self-care is the ability of a person, families, and communities to support and promote health care, impede diseases, maintain quality of health, cope well with illness and disability with or without the help of a medical care provider.

For us, self-care is any type of activity that we do purposefully to look after our physical, mental, and emotional health. Such a simple concept can also often be confusing and most tend to neglect it.

Self-care can also be tiny habits that we can incorporate daily so we can reduce the amount of anxiety and stress we feel from the rigorous activities we perform. Taking good care of ourselves is also essential in knowing our worth so we can close our doors to inevitable toxicity in our lives.

Self-care is also subjective – some write in their journals, some take time out, some prefer working out, and doing meditation, some individuals would binge watch, some people would pamper themselves through spa or personal skincare regimen.

Basically, self-care depends on you. But the main point as to why taking good care of yourselves is important is that we contribute to the development of our well-being and personal health to be able to support and proffer value to the world and to people who may need our help.

What is not self-care

Performing self-care is not selfish. Technically the core point of why we do self-care is to keep ourselves sane and to know what we totally need to better ourselves, consequently, we will be able to help and take care of our loved ones as well.

It is not an emergency plan

Self-care is also not an “emergency plan” that you will only do once you have encountered unpleasant life experiences. It is not just a one-time big-time reboot plan for ourselves, rather, it’s investing at least a small amount of time to reflect and focus on ourselves to be better.

It is not unmindful nibbling on unhealthy junks of food

When in deep stress, we tend to invest a substantial amount of time in front of our TV and nibble on junk food that we love. While it is totally fine to snack and treat ourselves to the food that we love, overindulgence in food only provides us temporary comfort and may even provide further health problems.

If you are trying to help yourself, it is best to be mindful of the self-soothing activities you want to try to engage in.

It is not about declining healthy relationships and isolation

When we think about self-care, sometimes it is associated with being alone – well not all the time. Sometimes, self-care is spending quality time with our friends and catching up with our loved ones. Self-soothing activities may also involve other people that we trust and love.

Isolation often brings us to the deepest and darkest thoughts that may make us alone and uncared for. Reaching out to friends and to our family can also be helpful in the process of our self-care. It is therapeutic to sit down and talk to people we care about and love most.


Always remember that self-care is subjective and that each and every one of us has different ways to cope and look after ourselves to prevent drastic mental breakdowns and over fatigue.

Figuring out what works for you, or creating personalized self-care is a good practice to improve yourself and to therefore help and be there for other people in the way we can.

About Admin

Nicole T. Conquilla is a 21-year old registered Psychometrician in the Philippines. She is a graduate of Bachelor of Science in Psychology who is a strong mental health advocate and encourages people to discuss, help, and support one another to cope and get through their mental health problems.

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